It's normal to worry about making friends at university. Just remember that everyone is in the same boat and they probably feel as nervous as you. That means they'll appreciate you reaching out to make friends.
Here are some of our tips on how to make friends at uni:
1. Connect on social media
We have lots of Facebook groups where you can connect with people on your course or in your accommodation. You might even be able to find your flatmates.
Don't be afraid to pop them a friendly hello and introduce yourself. This can help to break the ice and make you feel less nervous. You could even arrange to meet up on your first day.
You should also try to add the people you meet in your first few weeks. Even if you don't become friends straight away, you could message them in the future and build a relationship.
2. Start a conversation
Most people will be nervous - even if they don't show it. That means they'll appreciate if you start a conversation.
This could be about anything. Questions are normally a good place to start, because it gives them something to talk about. You could ask what they're studying, where they're from or what series they're watching at the moment.
Just remember to be friendly and open, and you can't go wrong. You're bound to have a few awkward silences, but this is all part of making friends.
3. Leave your door open
Once you have moved in, try to leave your door open. This can make it easier to chat to your flatmates as they're passing by. Otherwise they might think you don't want to talk.
If you don't want to leave your door open, sit in the kitchen for a while. You can talk to your flatmates while you cook and eat together.
4. Bring games
Games can be a great way to break the ice with your flatmates. And we're not just talking about 'never have I ever'.
A pack of cards is a must-have for university. You can try your hand at poker or use it to play drinking games like ring of fire.
You could also bring some classic games like Monopoly, Connect 4 and Guess Who. These are great for a chilled night in with your flatmates.
5. Course induction
Welcome Week is normally busy, but it's still important to go to your course induction. This will be your first chance to meet people on your course and make friends.
Course mates are really important. These are the people you'll be studying with for the next 3 years. They're great to have when you need to ask a question about an assignment, or want a hand with revision.
Try to sit next to people instead of on your own. This shows you're open to making friends. Your lecturer will normally plan some ice breakers. While some people hate them, they can be a great way to start up a conversation.
Remember to add people on social media. You could also suggest attending the Freshers Fair together.
6. Freshers Fair
The Freshers Fair is a staple of Welcome Week. It takes place all week, with a different theme each day.
One day could be societies, another could be part-time jobs, and another could be food and drink (that means free food). You can meet groups from inside and outside the university.
The Freshers Fair is also a good way to get to know your flatmates or people on your course. There's less pressure and you can chat about the stalls you see.
7. Freshers events
There will be lots of Freshers events going on. The university and Students' Union organise activities like bingo, karaoke and pub quizzes. Going to fun, silly things together can really help you form a friendship. They might even become some of your favourite memories.
There will also be lots of nights out, where you can hit the dancefloor together. Just make sure you don't drink too much and always stick together.
If you don't drink, don't worry. You can still make the most of Freshers. There are lots of alchohol-free activities, like late-night dessert bars and laser tag. Check out some advice from other students who don't drink:
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8. Join a society or sports team
Joining a society or sports team is a great way to make friends at university, as you already have a shared interest.
We have a wide range of societies, covering everything from archaeology to Bollywood dancing. These have regular meetings, activities and socials, where you can really build friendships.
There are also lots of different sports teams, including football, netball, hockey and rugby. You can play competitively or just for fun. Most sports teams also have socials, where teammates can bond.
9. Plan things
There's so much going on in your first few weeks, but try and put in the effort to make plans with people. This shows that you really want a friendship.
It doesn't have to be anything massive. You could grab some lunch after a lecture. This gives you the chance to get to know each other. You might hit it off and decide to do more together.
If you don't want to talk too much, you could do an activity instead. You could go shopping, bowling or go to the gym.
It can be scary to put yourself out there, but the worst that can happen is they say no.
10. Embrace the opportunity
While it may be scary to move away from your family and friends, starting university presents a unique opportunity. You will probably never meet as many new people from all over the world again. Be open to conversations and approach it as an exciting opportunity.
11. Be yourself
Our best tip for making friends at university? Be yourself.
Don't pretend to like drinking, if you don't like drinking. Don't pretend to be into politics, if you're not into politics. Because you'll have to keep pretending for the next 3 years.
The best way to make friends is to be yourself, because then they'll actually like you for you. You'll share similar interests and hobbies, and be able to build a genuine friendship.
Where next?
We hope this has helped to make you feel more confident about starting university. The University of Central Lancashire provide lots of support for first year students. Check out more of our guides below.
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